Are Your Worries, Fears and Trust Holding You Back After Divorce?
I hope you had a chance to read my blog about 5 Ways Divorce Counseling Helps Healing After A Marriage Ends. Here are 4 other topics that can help you move forward after separation and divorce.
1. Worrying About Your Children
For parents, divorce counseling can be very helpful in addressing what most parents worry about with divorce.
Even when children are resilient, the emotional weight of co-parenting, managing transitions, and worrying about the long-term affects on your kids can be heavy. Counseling helps parents separate their own grief from their parenting role, so they can show up more grounded and emotionally available for their children, while addressing your concerns as a parent.
2.Co-parenting
You may feel like the father/mother of your children is a good parent, and maybe you had an amicable divorce. But for most, divorce usually has intense emotions attached, especially when children are involved.
You may be concerned about your ex’s driving, parenting skills or ability to help your kids get their homework done. Or worse, you may wonder how they are going to handle emotional meltdowns your kids have when your ex was unavailable to you when you needed love and understanding.
In counseling you can work on what you can and can not control. As well as identify what is most important to you as a parent and find ways to express this with your ex to benefit your children. Or we will find ways that work for you to have a healthier balance between what happens under your roof and when your children are at school, friends, and so on.
I’m an outside of the box thinker, and we will work together to help you find ways to still have positive influence over your children’s lives, even when they are not at home.
3. Anger
Another area of divorce pertains to the anger that surfaces—sometimes quietly, sometimes with a lot of strong emotions. Anger doesn’t mean you’re bitter or stuck. Often, it’s a signal that boundaries were crossed or your needs were unmet in your marriage.
Healing doesn’t mean pretending it didn’t hurt. It means allowing yourself to heal despite your pain. In therapy, anger can be explored safely and respectfully, without shame.
When anger can be looked at without judgement, and understood instead of suppressed, anger becomes more manageable to work through.
In therapy, you will be encouraged to explore your anger, boundaries crossed and gain a better understanding what is behind the anger. Sometimes it can be sadness.
You will also have the opportunity to identify new boundaries needed to feel like life is more in your control as well as what is needed for you to have a new path in life to look forward to.
4. Trust
After a relationship ends, many people question their instincts: How did I miss the signs? Why did I tolerate so much? Can I trust myself again?
These questions don’t mean you failed; they mean you’re reflecting. Therapy helps turn self-blame into self-awareness, and helps people rebuild trust - not just in future partners, but more importantly, in yourself.
5. Moving Forward
As healing progresses, counseling can support you in reconnecting with the parts of yourself that were put on hold: your voice, your preferences, your career, or maybe even your life dreams.
This isn’t about “reinventing” yourself overnight. It’s about gently remembering who you are without the relationship defining you.
Some people worry that starting divorce counseling means they’ll be stuck in the past. But therapy often helps people work through things to help them move forward with authenticity.
Final Note:
Divorce marks the end of a chapter, not the end of your story. Divorce Counseling provides a time that will allow you to grieve, regroup, and slowly imagine what’s next. You don’t have to have clarity or confidence to begin - just a willingness to show up.
I offer a free 15 minute phone consultation. Call me to get started or click the “contact me” button so we can schedule your consultation at a time that works for you.